If you haven't already done so, be sure and go see the great tips that Holly posted in the comments of the last household chore post. They're great ideas! We'll see if I can accomplish them!
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So, AT, when I first was going to post about us "trying" and such, I was concerned about how it might come across to you with your fertility struggles and such. I didn't want to offend you or anything. However, I then thought about how supportive and great you've been with all of us, your passion for adoption, and just your general openess about everything, so that's why I decided to post. I've had a teeny, tiny...really infintely tiny view of your perspective over the past week or 2.
First of all, there is a girl that I used to work with who annoyed me like crazy when I worked with her. Through a lady that I still keep in contact with at that job, she knows that we're trying and keeps e-mailing me asking if we're pregnant yet. I would like very much to e-mail her back and say LEAVE ME ALONE!!!! However, I really have just ignored the last e-mail or 2. It's my only defense. She was my replacement so I worked with her for like 2 weeks or less. Therefore, I really don't think that it is any of her business whether I am or am not pregnant, which just further annoys me.
Secondly, one of my good friends from Minnesota called me yesterday to tell me that she's pregnant...due at the same time that I was hoping to be due if things were according to MY plan rather than God's. That was hard for me to swallow, but I did and I celebrated with her (via the phone). I am very excited for her, but it does sting.
So, I wanted you to know, A, that I don't know how you feel, but I want you to know that I am always aware of trying to make sure that I don't hurt you through my posts. Having an adopted sister makes me applaud you so much for being passionate about adoption; even if it wasn't your first choice of having a child...God has a special child picked out for you who desperately needs a loving mommy.
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On a completely un-related note, my sister is a happy girl! She is facing ridicule and resentment from some of her close friends, but she's handling it well. I think that it has settled in with my parents, because they were all out for dinner last night after Dani's voice recital. The funny thing to me was his facebook status. It gives you the prompt Devon is ... and you fill it in. Then, it posts it. Like mine could say, "Devon Vickers is ready for the weekend" or something like that. His said, "David Herrington is glad her dad didn't shoot him." I got a kick out of that.
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Emberley (mommy tike's little one that I'm going to start keeping 2 days a week starting this Thursday) and I had a trial run this morning for an hour or so. She did great! She sucked down her bottle like a champ and made us both proud!
Well, that's all I know for now. Catch 'ya on the flip side.
Tuesday, August 7, 2007
Monday, August 6, 2007
Bloggity Questions
I don't know if all of you anonymous people are wanting to stay anonymous or if you just chose that option. I didn't know if you knew that you can choose the "other" choice and just put a name. You don't have to put a website. For those of you who have put anonymous comments and initials, do you want your name to remain anonymous? There was a comment posted that said one of your names, which I erased. I didn't know if you wanted the beans spilled (so to speak) on your name or if you just didn't know how else to post without posting a blog..... Let me know if you have a chance, k?
Lots of emotions....
Well--the 'ol pee stick came back negative...again. I'm doing alright with that, though. It's an emotional rollercoaster for me, but I know full well that God has the time and date picked out for us and it will be perfect, as only HIS timing can be. SO...until next month.....
On a brighter, yet crazier note...my sister now has a boyfriend. Some of you know him. Ang--I think that he might have been your Teacher's Assistant. His name is David Herrington and he is...are you ready for this?...6 years older than her. That's right...SIX! They have hung out together a TON for the past year or so with a few other guys...Dani and a bunch of guys! HA! They finally both expressed their interest to each other. Here's the part that makes it okay for me...David went to my Dad and asked him permission to date Dani. He said that he knew that there was a huge age difference (at this stage in the game--it wouldn't be such a big deal in a few years, but now...world of difference) and he wanted my parents to know that he wasn't trying to take advantage of their 17-year-old daughter--he truly likes her and cares a lot about her. They are family friends from church and my parents know their parents well. In fact, Cami, their dad is Jerry Herrington...who was your dad's best friend!!! The weird thing is that I dated his older brother, Paul, so there is a lot of family connection there. Anyway, Dad told him that he knew David was old enough for alcohol, smoking, R-rated movies, etc. and he didn't want Dani exposed to any of that. He told him that we are all pretty protective of our Dani and that whoever she dates has high expectations to live up to. He told him that as long as she was being treated respectfully, he didn't think that age should play a factor, so he would give him permission. WHOA!
As Dad was telling me all this on the phone, I was running through the lists of guys from church that were anywhere from 1-6 years older than Dani, and I came to the realization that he is the only 1 that I would feel comfortable with her dating! Crazy!
So, they're dating now...my sister and a 23-year-old! As you can tell, I'm still trying to wrap my brain around this. Dani's always been very mature for her age and hasn't dated a single guy because all the guys around her age were idiots and far beneath her intellectually. I always thought she'd need an older guy........I just didn't think that it would be a 6-year age gap when she's in high school!!! :)
GO DANI! ;)
On a brighter, yet crazier note...my sister now has a boyfriend. Some of you know him. Ang--I think that he might have been your Teacher's Assistant. His name is David Herrington and he is...are you ready for this?...6 years older than her. That's right...SIX! They have hung out together a TON for the past year or so with a few other guys...Dani and a bunch of guys! HA! They finally both expressed their interest to each other. Here's the part that makes it okay for me...David went to my Dad and asked him permission to date Dani. He said that he knew that there was a huge age difference (at this stage in the game--it wouldn't be such a big deal in a few years, but now...world of difference) and he wanted my parents to know that he wasn't trying to take advantage of their 17-year-old daughter--he truly likes her and cares a lot about her. They are family friends from church and my parents know their parents well. In fact, Cami, their dad is Jerry Herrington...who was your dad's best friend!!! The weird thing is that I dated his older brother, Paul, so there is a lot of family connection there. Anyway, Dad told him that he knew David was old enough for alcohol, smoking, R-rated movies, etc. and he didn't want Dani exposed to any of that. He told him that we are all pretty protective of our Dani and that whoever she dates has high expectations to live up to. He told him that as long as she was being treated respectfully, he didn't think that age should play a factor, so he would give him permission. WHOA!
As Dad was telling me all this on the phone, I was running through the lists of guys from church that were anywhere from 1-6 years older than Dani, and I came to the realization that he is the only 1 that I would feel comfortable with her dating! Crazy!
So, they're dating now...my sister and a 23-year-old! As you can tell, I'm still trying to wrap my brain around this. Dani's always been very mature for her age and hasn't dated a single guy because all the guys around her age were idiots and far beneath her intellectually. I always thought she'd need an older guy........I just didn't think that it would be a 6-year age gap when she's in high school!!! :)
GO DANI! ;)
Sunday, August 5, 2007
HELP?!?
I wanted to talk about a suggestion made by my friend, HB. I LOVE the suggestion. Read it and then I'll tell you my problem.
"...Here's something that works for me...EVERY NIGHT before we go to bed, my hubby and I go thru the house and pick up whatever is left out and not in its rightful place. Anything we've used or brought home or new mail, whatever, that hasn't made it to its designated spot, gets picked up before we turn in for the night. This helps us in a couple of ways...1) When we get up the next morning, we start a new day with a fresh start, a picked up & clutter free house. Thus we are not starting our new day already behind. 2.) By doing this EVERY day we stay on top of the messes and clutter and it rarely gets out of hand. It only takes us 10 mins each night instead of over an hour once a week. This makes it more manageble for us in our busy lives. 3.) My house is usually always presentable this way. I don't have to worry if someone just drops by and excuse the mess that they are walking into. My toilets might not have been cleaned in a couple of days, but at least the "stuff" around our house is picked up and things are not strewn about. Anyways, obviously adapt this to your lifes and what works best for you. Maybe its picking up during kids nap time AND at night. So, that's my little tid bit of what works for me. Hope it helps someone!!" -HB
Here's my problem...I have a lot of stuff that does not have a "spot." How do you go around and put everything in its place when some things do not have a place? *sigh* I would love to have my house look like HB's...her house always looks perfect. I know, I know, you're already disagreeing, but I think that it is probably true. So...if anyone (including you H) have any thoughts on this...SEND 'EM MY WAY!!!!!!!!!!!
"...Here's something that works for me...EVERY NIGHT before we go to bed, my hubby and I go thru the house and pick up whatever is left out and not in its rightful place. Anything we've used or brought home or new mail, whatever, that hasn't made it to its designated spot, gets picked up before we turn in for the night. This helps us in a couple of ways...1) When we get up the next morning, we start a new day with a fresh start, a picked up & clutter free house. Thus we are not starting our new day already behind. 2.) By doing this EVERY day we stay on top of the messes and clutter and it rarely gets out of hand. It only takes us 10 mins each night instead of over an hour once a week. This makes it more manageble for us in our busy lives. 3.) My house is usually always presentable this way. I don't have to worry if someone just drops by and excuse the mess that they are walking into. My toilets might not have been cleaned in a couple of days, but at least the "stuff" around our house is picked up and things are not strewn about. Anyways, obviously adapt this to your lifes and what works best for you. Maybe its picking up during kids nap time AND at night. So, that's my little tid bit of what works for me. Hope it helps someone!!" -HB
Here's my problem...I have a lot of stuff that does not have a "spot." How do you go around and put everything in its place when some things do not have a place? *sigh* I would love to have my house look like HB's...her house always looks perfect. I know, I know, you're already disagreeing, but I think that it is probably true. So...if anyone (including you H) have any thoughts on this...SEND 'EM MY WAY!!!!!!!!!!!
Friday, August 3, 2007
A bit brighter
I'm a bit brighter than I was yesterday, although the cloud over my head has not fully disappated. I think that we're having friends over tonight, which is always cause for a little more happiness, neh?
For those of you who don't know, I am a HUGE fan of the game "Settlers of Catan." It is an awesome game that really makes you think. It is hard to find unless you go on the internet, but I got it for myself last Christmas. You really need the expansion pack, which makes the total purchase price around $50. OUCH! However, it is well worth it. If you've never played it, though, I suggest that you don't play it unless you're playing with someone that has played it before. It is an intense game and I think that it's much better if you learn by hearing all of the rules and then watching game play by experienced gamers.
Some of our fellow Settlers friends recently introduced us to a new game called "Puerto Rico." It is similar in that it is intense and really makes you think about strategy and such. I have only played it once and have been itching to play again ever since. It already is a close contender for my favorite game.
These games are both endorsed by Mensa...the organization for exceptionally smart people. However, don't let that scare you. They are fun for EVERYONE (age appropriate) once you get the hang of it!
I just wanted to do a lighter post about something I really enjoy! Let me know what games you enjoy! Hope you all have a great weekend!
For those of you who don't know, I am a HUGE fan of the game "Settlers of Catan." It is an awesome game that really makes you think. It is hard to find unless you go on the internet, but I got it for myself last Christmas. You really need the expansion pack, which makes the total purchase price around $50. OUCH! However, it is well worth it. If you've never played it, though, I suggest that you don't play it unless you're playing with someone that has played it before. It is an intense game and I think that it's much better if you learn by hearing all of the rules and then watching game play by experienced gamers.
Some of our fellow Settlers friends recently introduced us to a new game called "Puerto Rico." It is similar in that it is intense and really makes you think about strategy and such. I have only played it once and have been itching to play again ever since. It already is a close contender for my favorite game.
These games are both endorsed by Mensa...the organization for exceptionally smart people. However, don't let that scare you. They are fun for EVERYONE (age appropriate) once you get the hang of it!
I just wanted to do a lighter post about something I really enjoy! Let me know what games you enjoy! Hope you all have a great weekend!
Thursday, August 2, 2007
Switching Gears
I'm going to switch gears here, but if anyone has more to say on any past discussions, feel free to put them as comments on the most recent post so that people will read them. OR send them to me via e-mail and I'll post them.
First of all, I want to give a big shout-out to my cousin (Brittany) and her new baby, Maren, that was born yesterday. She is a doll and I'm thrilled for them! Britt and her sister, Ali, are some of my blog readers, so I wanted to be sure that sweet Maren was acknowledged!
So, I've got the dulldrums. As most of you know and/or have figured out via my various postings, we are trying for baby #2. Now, Mark prefers that people don't know that we're trying, so please don't say anything around him. He knows that a few of you know, but I'm not sure what he'd think about me actually publishing it. Of course, he doesn't understand the whole blog thing and thinks that even though I have a "private" blog, the whole world can still read it.....he just doesn't know that much about this sort of thing.
Anyway, we're trying. So, I set up this plan that we would try until the end of the summer and if not successful, we would then wait to try further until the spring. That way, should we have another girl, all of Cassie's things will still work for that baby. If we have a boy, it wouldn't really matter one way or the other, but we can't really control that now, can we? :)
So...we're trying. We have a deadline. That makes me anxious and frustrated and gives me a feeling of powerlessness. We we agreed to this plan, we prayed and both committed the situation to God and His planning and timing. I completely 100% know that his timing is perfect. I completely submit to His plan in this situation. BUT, that doesn't mean that I'm not going to be really sad if it doesn't happen this summer. I just want it so badly. I will deal with it and get through the next several months until we start trying again if it doesn't happen, but I will be sad at first.
Part of the reason that this will be so devastating for me is that I FEEL pregnant. I feel off. I feel worn out and tired even though I've gotten adequate sleep. I feel thirsty. I feel hungry. I'm peeing a lot. Several of these I attribute to the fact that I just weaned Cassie from nursing, but it would be oh-so-exciting if they were because I was PG! So, if it turns out that I'm not, either I'm a nut job in the head and it's all psychological or something else is wrong to be making me feel so fatigued and thirsty...those are the 2 main ones.
Any of you who have experienced that 2-week wait to be able to take a pregnancy test probably understand where I'm coming from right now. It is the looooooooongest 2 weeks of my entire life over and over again! This is really only the 3rd or 4th cycle that we've tried through, but it seems like it's been many more than that.
Yeah, so, sorry this post was such a downer. It's my blog, though, so I get to write about whatever I feel like writing about! :) :) :) I just wish that it wasn't such a big deal of "OK...we're trying now." It's a huge decision in any marriage and it was so nice when Cassie was just an oops. I guess we were already trying.... :) There wasn't any pressure. There wasn't any deadline.
That's my story for today and that's all I'm gonna say about that.
First of all, I want to give a big shout-out to my cousin (Brittany) and her new baby, Maren, that was born yesterday. She is a doll and I'm thrilled for them! Britt and her sister, Ali, are some of my blog readers, so I wanted to be sure that sweet Maren was acknowledged!
So, I've got the dulldrums. As most of you know and/or have figured out via my various postings, we are trying for baby #2. Now, Mark prefers that people don't know that we're trying, so please don't say anything around him. He knows that a few of you know, but I'm not sure what he'd think about me actually publishing it. Of course, he doesn't understand the whole blog thing and thinks that even though I have a "private" blog, the whole world can still read it.....he just doesn't know that much about this sort of thing.
Anyway, we're trying. So, I set up this plan that we would try until the end of the summer and if not successful, we would then wait to try further until the spring. That way, should we have another girl, all of Cassie's things will still work for that baby. If we have a boy, it wouldn't really matter one way or the other, but we can't really control that now, can we? :)
So...we're trying. We have a deadline. That makes me anxious and frustrated and gives me a feeling of powerlessness. We we agreed to this plan, we prayed and both committed the situation to God and His planning and timing. I completely 100% know that his timing is perfect. I completely submit to His plan in this situation. BUT, that doesn't mean that I'm not going to be really sad if it doesn't happen this summer. I just want it so badly. I will deal with it and get through the next several months until we start trying again if it doesn't happen, but I will be sad at first.
Part of the reason that this will be so devastating for me is that I FEEL pregnant. I feel off. I feel worn out and tired even though I've gotten adequate sleep. I feel thirsty. I feel hungry. I'm peeing a lot. Several of these I attribute to the fact that I just weaned Cassie from nursing, but it would be oh-so-exciting if they were because I was PG! So, if it turns out that I'm not, either I'm a nut job in the head and it's all psychological or something else is wrong to be making me feel so fatigued and thirsty...those are the 2 main ones.
Any of you who have experienced that 2-week wait to be able to take a pregnancy test probably understand where I'm coming from right now. It is the looooooooongest 2 weeks of my entire life over and over again! This is really only the 3rd or 4th cycle that we've tried through, but it seems like it's been many more than that.
Yeah, so, sorry this post was such a downer. It's my blog, though, so I get to write about whatever I feel like writing about! :) :) :) I just wish that it wasn't such a big deal of "OK...we're trying now." It's a huge decision in any marriage and it was so nice when Cassie was just an oops. I guess we were already trying.... :) There wasn't any pressure. There wasn't any deadline.
That's my story for today and that's all I'm gonna say about that.
Wednesday, August 1, 2007
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