So, for those of you who read this, you know that I've been doing Love and Logic. We have been working for 2 weeks now on the "Uh-Oh Song." This basically is a cycle that you use when your child is misbehaving where you start out by saying, "UH-OH" before taking them to their room and there is more to it. Anyway, I was given a positive reenforcement today telling me that I had been practicing this pattern a lot. Conrey learned a new word. After taking sis to her room for misbehaving at the dinner table (what's new???), I came back and heard him saying "uh........oh....... uh......oh....." HA! He kept repeating it. He has heard it OFTEN between his screaming and sis's fussing/whining.
Another thing that I have nipped in the bud is being a 24-hour kitchen for Cassie. We eat at the appointed times and that is all. Last night on the way home from church when she started whining about being hungry, I reminded her that she chose for Daddy to finish her chicken nuggets at dinner. I said, "But I have great news..." She said, "Breakfast is in the morning?" Grinning to myself, I said, "YEP!" That has been my response almost every night for several weeks now. It was the first time that she told ME what the great news was. She actually said it kind of excited. She loves cereal and I think that she sees it as me telling her that a great thing will be waiting for her when she wakes up.
Anyway, between the potty training success and the other ways that life has improved around here, I'd say that L&L is definitely a hit. Of course, as with any child-training tool, there are things I use and things I don't; things I agree with and things I don't. What we're using is working, though, and that is obviously the point.
When I started, I thought that it was ridiculous when they said that L&L parents look forward to their children misbehaving because those are opportunities for learning and gaining wisdom. I now understand. I kind of go through my day and predict issues that are going to arise, how I will handle them, and how I can help her learn from it.
As for Conrey...he is still in a major screaming mode and nothing is working. If ANYONE has any ideas, I would gladly...GLADLY take them. He wants me holding him...period. Whenever I set him down, he screams. I am not one that has ever held my kids a ton, so I think when he was sick last week and I snuggled him a lot, held him when he slept (because he couldn't breathe), etc. it really spoiled him. Now, I'm struggling to break the cycle. I immediately put him in his "time out" location whenever he screams and he just screams harder and louder. Whenever I come back to check on him, he immediately stops. He will sit in his room with me just across the hall where he can see me and scream. He screamed for over an hour the other day before I finally picked him up for fear of damaging his vocal chords. So, any suggestions...ANY AT ALL...please help a struggling momma out! :)
I'm off to bed.